Today I got asked one of the most annoying questions I ever get asked: Why don’t you wanna get married?
Maybe I have one reason that I’d like to share with you. Maybe I have a bunch of reasons that I don’t wanna tell. Either way, it’s a personal choice.
I think people ask this question because not wanting to get married is the exception to the rule or is not the normal thing to because when you’re with someone for a certain amount of time people expect you to put a ring on it, because “that’s the next step”. And I respect that. The thing that bugs me is the questioning of my decision and trying to get me out of it. When my sister and my friends got married it never ever crossed my mind to question their decision and their desire of wanting to get married. Never. It was their decision, and I was happy to celebrate it with them.
I can tell you this…
I believe true love exists with or without a wedding, and that’s what matters. Love is wearing a white dress. Love is not wearing one at all. Love is a diamond ring followed by a special proposal. Love is a commitment between two people without a ring. Love is saying “I do” in front of all your friends and family. Love is saying “I do” in private. Love is magic and it exists, it just does. We are all free to express it and celebrate it in the way that feels most special to us, and no one should ever question that.
Love is love. I know I feel it, I know our souls feel it. And if that’s enough to me, it should be enough to you.
“It made my imagination do unexpected things; as I sat there I found myself thinking of things I hadn’t thought for years, old emotions washing over me, new thoughts and ideas being pulled from me as if my perception itself were being stretched out of shape. It was almost too much, but I didn’t want it to stop. I wanted to sit there forever”. – Me Before You
This quote, as you can see, is from the book Me Before You. This is how one of the characters describes her experience at a concert, and it’s totally accurate. I’ve always loved music, but I’ve never put into words what music is to me. So when I took some time to think about it the word that came to my mind was MAGIC. That’s it, I can’t think of anything else. It’s a magical feeling that can take me places, feel feelings that I thought I had forgotten, remember experiences and feel alive.
Music is everything. It’s putting some words to your feelings, it’s what brings people together at a concert, it’s singing in the shower, it’s inspiration, it’s thinking of someone else, it’s dancing in the car, it’s moving your foot instantly when you listen to a song wherever you are, it’s dancing with your friends, it’s turning up the volume and feeling alive, it’s getting goose bumps, it’s crying to beautiful lyrics, it’s a memory, it’s dancing to the beat even when you don’t know the lyrics, it’s happiness, it’s closing your eyes and for three or four minutes immersing yourself in a bubble forgetting everything else that surrounds you. Like I said, music is everything.
A couple of weeks ago I got the chance to talk to a woman that told me that she believed dancing to your favorite song was a way of meditating. It sounded weird at first, because when I think about meditation I think about silence or mantras or really soothing music. But what she says makes sense because when I put my headphones on and I play my favorite song I let go of everything else and I live in the moment.
Give it a try, you’ll like it I promise!