LOVE IS LOVE

Today I got asked one of the most annoying questions I ever get asked: Why don’t you wanna get married?

Maybe I have one reason that I’d like to share with you. Maybe I have a bunch of reasons that I don’t wanna tell. Either way, it’s a personal choice.

I think people ask this question because not wanting to get married is the exception to the rule or is not the normal thing to because when you’re with someone for a certain amount of time people expect you to put a ring on it, because “that’s the next step”. And I respect that. The thing that bugs me is the questioning of my decision and trying to get me out of it. When my sister and my friends got married it never ever crossed my mind to question their decision and their desire of wanting to get married. Never. It was their decision, and I was happy to celebrate it with them.

I can tell you this…

I believe true love exists with or without a wedding, and that’s what matters. Love is wearing a white dress. Love is not wearing one at all. Love is a diamond ring followed by a special proposal. Love is a commitment between two people without a ring. Love is saying “I do” in front of all your friends and family. Love is saying “I do” in private. Love is magic and it exists, it just does. We are all free to express it and celebrate it in the way that feels most special to us, and no one should ever question that.

Love is love. I know I feel it, I know our souls feel it. And if that’s enough to me, it should be enough to you.

EN UN AÑO APRENDÍ

“How do you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife? In five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes… How do you measure a year in the life?” –  Seasons of Love

Hace un año estaba intentando localizar a mis jefes, que estaban de vacaciones en lugares con poca o nada de señal, para avisarles que tenía una nueva oportunidad laboral y que había decidido tomarla. Hace un año me fui y hace poco regresé. Hace un año… Se siente tan cerca y a la vez tan lejano.

Parece poco tiempo, pero es suficiente para aprender mucho. Y tal vez, en este tiempo he aprendido más de lo que había aprendido en los últimos años.

Aprendí que estar sola es difícil, pero es necesario.

Que no es lo mismo pasar una tarde sola en una casa donde sabes que eventualmente va a llegar alguien a estar sola  en tu casa un día tras otro.

Aprendí a estar conmigo, a conocerme y a aceptarme y entendí que no puedo estar bien con las personas que me rodean si no estoy bien conmigo. No puedo pedir que me acepten por quien soy, si no lo hago yo misma.

Acepté que soy introvertida y que no puedo ser de otra manera. Que disfruto más estar en casa leyendo un libro que en una fiesta rodeada de gente. Y, aunque muchas veces he deseado ser extrovertida o ser el alma de la fiesta, simplemente esa no soy yo.

Aprendí que con el tiempo, el miedo se va desvaneciendo aunque siempre está ahí esperando a que seas vulnerable otra vez.

Aprendí que llorar no es malo, que es mi manera de decir todo lo que no he dicho. Y que ese último suspiro que das cuando dejas salir la última lagrima es el equivalente a decirte a ti misma “todo está bien, estamos bien.”

Aprendí que la música es una gran compañera que siempre tiene las palabras correctas, el ritmo, el sentimiento… Porque subir a la azotea, ponerme mis audífonos y bailar  mientras veía la puesta del sol de fondo me llenó de alegría varias veces.

Aprendí que en poco tiempo se pueden hacer buenos amigos, grandes amigos. Y que tu jefa puede ser tu amiga, sobretodo si las dos tienen una obsesión con todo lo que sea de arcoíris y unicornios.

Aprendí que el trabajo no es ni será lo más importante en mi vida. Que es importante y necesario, pero es algo pasajero y, como pocas cosas en la vida, es algo que se puede sustituir.

Aprendí el verdadero significado de extrañar. Una persona, una mirada, un abrazo, un sentimiento familiar. Y me di cuenta de lo mucho que valoro lo que dejé atrás y que en esos momentos estaba lejos, mi familia.

Aprendí que apenas estoy aprendiendo a querer a mi manera y que poco a poco voy descifrando como expresarlo a los demás de la manera más honesta, de la manera que necesitan.

Aprendí que las flores llenan tu casa de felicidad y de una energía muy bonita.

Aprendí que la vida no se debe disfrutar dos días a la semana si existen otros cinco donde se pueden hacer más cosas que sólo trabajar. Porque hay maneras muy simples de vivirla, de sentirla y disfrutarla.

Que voltear al cielo y ver las estrellas es algo muy lindo que dejé de hacer cuando crecí. Y ahora que he vuelto a hacerlo, sigo buscando a “los tres reyes magos” o una estrella fugaz que me cumpla un deseo.

Aprendí a ser feliz, con lo que tengo, con lo que siento y con lo que soy.

Aprendí que me encanta ir al super y que no volveré a criticar a mi mamá por ir pasillo por pasillo viendo que se puede encontrar porque ahora es algo que yo disfruto hacer.

Aprendí que pedir ayuda es difícil, pero no es malo porque las personas que te quieren siempre van a estar.

Aprendí a leer otra vez, a tomar un libro y dejar que me llevara a diferentes lugares, perderme en él, y por un ratito dejar atrás la realidad.

screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-7-53-47-pmAprendí que amar a distancia es difícil, pero que cuando amas eres capaz de viajar con todo y gato para estar con la otra persona.

Aprendí que juzgar y criticar a otros es muy fácil y que hay muchas cosas que no entenderemos hasta estar en los zapatos de la otra persona. Que cada quien está peleando sus batallas, sus miedos, sus fantasmas y todas esas cosas los hacen ser como son. Que la empatía es cabrona porque es difícil tenerla, pero te hace una mejor persona.

Aprendí que escribir es la mejor manera que conozco para darle forma a lo que siento y expresarlo.

Aprendí que las sorpresas me hacen llorar y que mis caras ridículas de Snapchat son un buen tema para una fiesta.

Aprendí la magia de agradecer y de todos los días empezarlos y terminarlos dando gracias por cosas, personas, experiencias, sentimientos y muchas cosas que tengo.

Aprendí que crecer es horrible e increíble a la vez.

Aprendí que por más que el tiempo pase, nunca dejas de aprender cosas que ya habías aprendido y otras nuevas que encuentras en el camino.

Ah y por qué ahora escribo en español?? Porque en Facebook memories me salió una frase que puse en ingles hace varios años y Pato, un amigo de la escuela, me dijo “sería más bonito si fuera en español”, entonces decidí intentarlo.

 

 

I’M IN LOVE TOO…

 

Yesterday, while I was at the coffee shop reading, I saw a girl and a boy who looked like a couple. I assumed that because of the way they hugged, the way they looked at each other, and the way they laughed together. It was cute, they really seemed to be in love.

I sound like a crazy stalker, I know, but I couldn’t help to think about what I felt in the past when I saw couples like them. I used to think “Oh, I wish I had that”, but yesterday was different because this time I smiled and said “I get them, I’m in love too”.

 

 

CALL IT MUSIC, CALL IT MAGIC

“It made my imagination do unexpected things; as I sat there I found myself thinking of things I hadn’t thought for years, old emotions washing over me, new thoughts and ideas being pulled from me as if my perception itself were being stretched out of shape. It was almost too much, but I didn’t want it to stop. I wanted to sit there forever”. – Me Before You

This quote, as you can see, is from the book Me Before You. This is how one of the characters describes her experience at a concert, and it’s totally accurate. I’ve always loved music, but I’ve never put into words what music is to me. So when I took some time to think about it the word that came to my mind was MAGIC. That’s it, I can’t think of anything else. It’s a magical feeling that can take me places, feel feelings that I thought I had forgotten, remember experiences and feel alive.

Music is everything. It’s putting some words to your feelings, it’s what brings people together at a concert, it’s singing in the shower, it’s inspiration, it’s thinking of someone else, it’s dancing in the car, it’s moving your foot instantly when you listen to a song wherever you are, it’s dancing with your friends, it’s turning up the volume and feeling alive, it’s getting goose bumps, it’s crying to beautiful lyrics, it’s a memory, it’s dancing to the beat even when you don’t know the lyrics, it’s happiness, it’s closing your eyes and for three or four minutes immersing yourself in a bubble forgetting everything else that surrounds you. Like I said, music is everything.

A couple of weeks ago I got the chance to talk to a woman that told me that she believed dancing to your favorite song was a way of meditating. It sounded weird at first, because when I think about meditation I think about silence or mantras or really soothing music. But what she says makes sense because when I put my headphones on and I play my favorite song I let go of everything else and I live in the moment.

Give it a try, you’ll like it I promise!

IT’S TIME

It’s time to say I love you to your partner, to your family, to your friends, to your dog…

It’s time to eat that chocolate without thinking of how many calories it has.

It’s time to walk to the person that you see everyday and hug them as if you haven’t seen them in a long time.

It’s time to play your favorite song and dance and sing and let the music give you chills.

It’s time to realize that there are so many things going on in the world, that people are flawed but that there’s so much more greatness out there than there’s badness.

It’s time to call that person instead of texting them.

It’s time to get a pet, because yes they might not talk but furry friends are really the best company.

It’s time to stop looking for “the one”, you are the one, you don’t need someone to complete you.

It’s time to go out with your friends and feel good about the fact that no matter how little you see each other, you still feel close.

It’s time to be yourself because it’s better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.

It’s time to get a check up, yes you may be young and healthy, but you don’t have superpowers, you have to take care of yourself.

It’s time to stop acting like life is a race and you gotta win it. Take your time, you don’t have to keep up to other people’s pace.

It’s time to be alone, to take some time for yourself and get to know you, because you’ve changed but you’re so busy with everything else that you have stopped paying attention to your soul.

It’s time to relax, have a cup of tea and just relax, because the world will not end if you slow down for a while.

It’s time to smile to a stranger, because a smile can brighten a day.

It’s time to be happy for your friends and let them know that you’re happy, that you’re proud of them.

It’s time to be thankful, because when was the last time you looked around and thanked whatever force you believe in for everything that you have and you are?

It’s time to ask  “how are you?” to the person that makes your coffee every morning, because they usually only ask you.

It’s time to give yourself some credit for everything you’ve accomplished.

It’s time to call your parents because they still miss you even if they don’t say it.

It’s time to paint, take pictures, sing, write, dance, run… or whatever makes you feel alive because if not now, when?

It’s time to start falling in love with your flaws and embracing them as beautiful things that make you you.

It’s time to let things flow and stop wanting to control everything, we can’t do that, we just can’t.

It’s time to do the number one thing on your bucket list because if you keep waiting for the right time, let me tell you there’s no right time, the time is now and you should live it while you can.

It’s time to start living, because really that’s why we are here for.

 

DO

I’ve told you before about the podcasts that I listen to, one of them is Life Lately. On episode 5 of the show, the two hosts started talking about the word they chose to honor during 2016 instead of making a bunch of new year’s resolutions.

We all make new year’s resolutions, or  at least we try to stick to some of them but honestly, do you remember all of them now? I mean we are already on the fifth month of the year (shocking, right??) and I believe that by now most us have forgotten about those resolutions or simply decided to ignore them. It’s hard to stick to them because in our minds there are so many things we want to achieve in one single year and that’s a lot to handle. That’s why I find interesting the fact of choosing one word and honoring that word throughout the whole year. After thinking about it for a couple of days, my word came to me: DO.

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This is the word that I wanna follow this year and forever because nothing happens if you don’t make it happen, if you don’t get off your ass and do something. Everything I do is going to make an impact in my life, each little or big action is a step towards what I want to achieve. The important thing for me is stop talking about it and start doing it. And I think we all can learn a bit about this word. Because we live in a time where mindfulness, spirituality and the whole law of attraction have become subjects everyone has an opinion about. Truth is, no matter how spiritual or mindful you are or how much time you spend creating and staring at your vision board, nothing is going to happen if you don’t do something.

In order to create change we have to act, we have to do. Because action creates momentum and that momentum is what I believe releases the energy that gets thing started. So, this year I’m gonna focus less on whining and bitching about my life and instead I’m going to focus on doing the things I have to do to get myself where I want to be.

Could you pick a word for this year? Which one?

 

MOVIES YOU CAN’T MISS THIS YEAR

Summer is almost here which means a lot of good movies will be in theatres soon. This is the list of the ones I think you can’t miss. Wether you re a fashionista, a hopeless romantic or someone who loves thrillers, there’s a movie for you on this list.

Me Before You

Based on the best selling book by Jojo Moyes, it’s a love story that I’m sure will make a lot of you cry. I didn’t rea the book, but one of my friends confirmed that she cried a lot while reading it.

 

Mothers and Daughters

Perfect movie for Mother’s Day, right? Anyway, I think if you are a mom or a daughter o both, you are really gonna enjoy this movie about the relationship between both. It looks like a sweet family story.

 

Trust Fund

This one’s a little different from the first two, it’s not a love story but still has some romance. It’s about Reese, a writer from Chicago who is living the life everyone expects her to. Until she find out her dad is keeping a secret about what her mother really wanted for her.

 

Demolition

After losing his wife, David goes through a hard time and he is unable to move on until he starts a demolition of the life he once knew.

 

Jack of the Red Hearts

In order to keep her sister with her instead of leaving her in a foster home, Jack gets a job as a caretaker of a girl with autism who ends up changing her life.

 

The Driftless Area

Based on the novel by Tom Drury. When he goes back to his hometown, Pierre falls in love with a mysterious woman. Soon enough he also gets involved with a criminal in order to revenge someone’s death.

 

The First Monday in May

The Met Gala is the biggest fashion event hosted by Vogue’s editor in chief Anna Wintour at the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The movie shows the story behind last year’s event”China: Through The Looking Glass”.

 

Finding Dory

If you enjoyed Finding Nemo, something tells me you’re gonna want to watch this one.