LOVE IS LOVE

Today I got asked one of the most annoying questions I ever get asked: Why don’t you wanna get married?

Maybe I have one reason that I’d like to share with you. Maybe I have a bunch of reasons that I don’t wanna tell. Either way, it’s a personal choice.

I think people ask this question because not wanting to get married is the exception to the rule or is not the normal thing to because when you’re with someone for a certain amount of time people expect you to put a ring on it, because “that’s the next step”. And I respect that. The thing that bugs me is the questioning of my decision and trying to get me out of it. When my sister and my friends got married it never ever crossed my mind to question their decision and their desire of wanting to get married. Never. It was their decision, and I was happy to celebrate it with them.

I can tell you this…

I believe true love exists with or without a wedding, and that’s what matters. Love is wearing a white dress. Love is not wearing one at all. Love is a diamond ring followed by a special proposal. Love is a commitment between two people without a ring. Love is saying “I do” in front of all your friends and family. Love is saying “I do” in private. Love is magic and it exists, it just does. We are all free to express it and celebrate it in the way that feels most special to us, and no one should ever question that.

Love is love. I know I feel it, I know our souls feel it. And if that’s enough to me, it should be enough to you.

EN UN AÑO APRENDÍ

“How do you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife? In five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes… How do you measure a year in the life?” –  Seasons of Love

Hace un año estaba intentando localizar a mis jefes, que estaban de vacaciones en lugares con poca o nada de señal, para avisarles que tenía una nueva oportunidad laboral y que había decidido tomarla. Hace un año me fui y hace poco regresé. Hace un año… Se siente tan cerca y a la vez tan lejano.

Parece poco tiempo, pero es suficiente para aprender mucho. Y tal vez, en este tiempo he aprendido más de lo que había aprendido en los últimos años.

Aprendí que estar sola es difícil, pero es necesario.

Que no es lo mismo pasar una tarde sola en una casa donde sabes que eventualmente va a llegar alguien a estar sola  en tu casa un día tras otro.

Aprendí a estar conmigo, a conocerme y a aceptarme y entendí que no puedo estar bien con las personas que me rodean si no estoy bien conmigo. No puedo pedir que me acepten por quien soy, si no lo hago yo misma.

Acepté que soy introvertida y que no puedo ser de otra manera. Que disfruto más estar en casa leyendo un libro que en una fiesta rodeada de gente. Y, aunque muchas veces he deseado ser extrovertida o ser el alma de la fiesta, simplemente esa no soy yo.

Aprendí que con el tiempo, el miedo se va desvaneciendo aunque siempre está ahí esperando a que seas vulnerable otra vez.

Aprendí que llorar no es malo, que es mi manera de decir todo lo que no he dicho. Y que ese último suspiro que das cuando dejas salir la última lagrima es el equivalente a decirte a ti misma “todo está bien, estamos bien.”

Aprendí que la música es una gran compañera que siempre tiene las palabras correctas, el ritmo, el sentimiento… Porque subir a la azotea, ponerme mis audífonos y bailar  mientras veía la puesta del sol de fondo me llenó de alegría varias veces.

Aprendí que en poco tiempo se pueden hacer buenos amigos, grandes amigos. Y que tu jefa puede ser tu amiga, sobretodo si las dos tienen una obsesión con todo lo que sea de arcoíris y unicornios.

Aprendí que el trabajo no es ni será lo más importante en mi vida. Que es importante y necesario, pero es algo pasajero y, como pocas cosas en la vida, es algo que se puede sustituir.

Aprendí el verdadero significado de extrañar. Una persona, una mirada, un abrazo, un sentimiento familiar. Y me di cuenta de lo mucho que valoro lo que dejé atrás y que en esos momentos estaba lejos, mi familia.

Aprendí que apenas estoy aprendiendo a querer a mi manera y que poco a poco voy descifrando como expresarlo a los demás de la manera más honesta, de la manera que necesitan.

Aprendí que las flores llenan tu casa de felicidad y de una energía muy bonita.

Aprendí que la vida no se debe disfrutar dos días a la semana si existen otros cinco donde se pueden hacer más cosas que sólo trabajar. Porque hay maneras muy simples de vivirla, de sentirla y disfrutarla.

Que voltear al cielo y ver las estrellas es algo muy lindo que dejé de hacer cuando crecí. Y ahora que he vuelto a hacerlo, sigo buscando a “los tres reyes magos” o una estrella fugaz que me cumpla un deseo.

Aprendí a ser feliz, con lo que tengo, con lo que siento y con lo que soy.

Aprendí que me encanta ir al super y que no volveré a criticar a mi mamá por ir pasillo por pasillo viendo que se puede encontrar porque ahora es algo que yo disfruto hacer.

Aprendí que pedir ayuda es difícil, pero no es malo porque las personas que te quieren siempre van a estar.

Aprendí a leer otra vez, a tomar un libro y dejar que me llevara a diferentes lugares, perderme en él, y por un ratito dejar atrás la realidad.

screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-7-53-47-pmAprendí que amar a distancia es difícil, pero que cuando amas eres capaz de viajar con todo y gato para estar con la otra persona.

Aprendí que juzgar y criticar a otros es muy fácil y que hay muchas cosas que no entenderemos hasta estar en los zapatos de la otra persona. Que cada quien está peleando sus batallas, sus miedos, sus fantasmas y todas esas cosas los hacen ser como son. Que la empatía es cabrona porque es difícil tenerla, pero te hace una mejor persona.

Aprendí que escribir es la mejor manera que conozco para darle forma a lo que siento y expresarlo.

Aprendí que las sorpresas me hacen llorar y que mis caras ridículas de Snapchat son un buen tema para una fiesta.

Aprendí la magia de agradecer y de todos los días empezarlos y terminarlos dando gracias por cosas, personas, experiencias, sentimientos y muchas cosas que tengo.

Aprendí que crecer es horrible e increíble a la vez.

Aprendí que por más que el tiempo pase, nunca dejas de aprender cosas que ya habías aprendido y otras nuevas que encuentras en el camino.

Ah y por qué ahora escribo en español?? Porque en Facebook memories me salió una frase que puse en ingles hace varios años y Pato, un amigo de la escuela, me dijo “sería más bonito si fuera en español”, entonces decidí intentarlo.

 

 

I’M IN LOVE TOO…

 

Yesterday, while I was at the coffee shop reading, I saw a girl and a boy who looked like a couple. I assumed that because of the way they hugged, the way they looked at each other, and the way they laughed together. It was cute, they really seemed to be in love.

I sound like a crazy stalker, I know, but I couldn’t help to think about what I felt in the past when I saw couples like them. I used to think “Oh, I wish I had that”, but yesterday was different because this time I smiled and said “I get them, I’m in love too”.

 

 

CALL IT MUSIC, CALL IT MAGIC

“It made my imagination do unexpected things; as I sat there I found myself thinking of things I hadn’t thought for years, old emotions washing over me, new thoughts and ideas being pulled from me as if my perception itself were being stretched out of shape. It was almost too much, but I didn’t want it to stop. I wanted to sit there forever”. – Me Before You

This quote, as you can see, is from the book Me Before You. This is how one of the characters describes her experience at a concert, and it’s totally accurate. I’ve always loved music, but I’ve never put into words what music is to me. So when I took some time to think about it the word that came to my mind was MAGIC. That’s it, I can’t think of anything else. It’s a magical feeling that can take me places, feel feelings that I thought I had forgotten, remember experiences and feel alive.

Music is everything. It’s putting some words to your feelings, it’s what brings people together at a concert, it’s singing in the shower, it’s inspiration, it’s thinking of someone else, it’s dancing in the car, it’s moving your foot instantly when you listen to a song wherever you are, it’s dancing with your friends, it’s turning up the volume and feeling alive, it’s getting goose bumps, it’s crying to beautiful lyrics, it’s a memory, it’s dancing to the beat even when you don’t know the lyrics, it’s happiness, it’s closing your eyes and for three or four minutes immersing yourself in a bubble forgetting everything else that surrounds you. Like I said, music is everything.

A couple of weeks ago I got the chance to talk to a woman that told me that she believed dancing to your favorite song was a way of meditating. It sounded weird at first, because when I think about meditation I think about silence or mantras or really soothing music. But what she says makes sense because when I put my headphones on and I play my favorite song I let go of everything else and I live in the moment.

Give it a try, you’ll like it I promise!

To All My Friends: Because With You, Life is Better

 

I’ve been thinking about the story of my life lately, thinking about how so many things have changed in so little time and at the same time so much has stayed the same even when there’s a lot of change going on. (Does that make any sense? Sometimes things make complete sense when I say them in my head or even when I tell them to myself out loud in the car, but when I actually write them they don’t sound as good as I thought, that’s what happened with that first sentence). Anyway…

My friends are one of those things that have stayed the same when so many other things changed. There’s engagements, weddings, babies, distance, success and even failure sometimes, but they’re still here and I’m still here thanks to them in some ways. I don’t know why we stop telling our friends what we think or how we feel about them. When I was little I remember it was easier to write letters to friends saying things like “you’re my best friend”, “I had so much fun at your party” or “thank you for being my friend”, but as a grown up I rarely do it. Life gets harder, more complicated, and even when they’re by my side through it all, I rarely express to them how I really feel.

The other day I told one of my best friends something I’ve always known, but I had never said before. I told her that she probably didn’t know it, but she was the one who introduced me to music, to new music for me at least. Of course I knew music before she came into my life, but I didn’t know about all the beautiful sounds I was missing out  on until she showed them to me. And today, Don’t Stop Me Now is one of my favorite songs because more than 10 years ago she introduced me to Queen. And that’s just an example of something a friend of mine has given to me. So today I wanted to take some time to say I love you and a big THANK YOU to all my friends.

Thank you for getting in touch with me on any day, out of the blue just to talk about what’s going on in our lives.
Thank you for tagging me on that facebook note that you think is interesting.
Thank you going to concerts with me and enjoying music together.
That you for being there no matter if there’s shit or sunshine around me.
Thank you for being starightforward with me when I’ve needed a reality check.
Thank you for the fun times and for the not so fun ones.
Thank you for your unconditional love and support.
Thank you for all the gossip, because let’s face it, we girls like to gossip.
Thank you for the advice, for the words of wisdom.
Thank you for letting me be part of your life, and thanks for wanting to be part of mine.

We may not call each other everyday, and we may see ourselves every two, three or more months, still you are one of the most important and amazing part of my life.

Love you all, you know who you are.

Picture belongs to Sania Claus Demina

 

GIRL BOSS: CAITIE SHERRICK

Going after your dreams is not always as easy as it seems. We read all these stories about people who leave their full time jobs to go do their own things, and that sounds amazing and so empowering, but we rarely get a glimpse of what happens behind the scenes, behind the success. Today´s Girl Boss is Caitie Sherrick, not because she decided to do what she wanted to do and use her talents, but because she kept going even when for a moment she doubted herself.

Caitie has a jewelry line called Leocadia K, named after her mom’s mom because she always felt connected to her in many ways. I met Caitie (or actually virtually met her) on Instagram, when her jewelry caught my attention. She makes the kind of things i’d wear, simple yet so special and beautiful; the kind of jewelry that can make your outfit stand out. After watching her stuff I knew I had to know more about her and about where those beautiful pieces where born. So, today I’m so happy to share her story with you.

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Tell us your story, a little bit about you, how and when did you start your brand?
I’ve designed and made my own jewelry all of my life in one way or another, from making hemp necklaces as a kid at summer camp, to making found-object shell earrings as gifts for friends in college. I have a degree in drawing, so my creative roots run deep within the fine art world, and making jewelry to earn a living, just wasn’t really on my radar for a long time.

After college, I tried one creative job after another and struggled to really find one that not only let me use all of my talents and creativity, but also one that suited my needs as a Navy wife. So,after becoming a Navy wife and seeing so much interest in necklaces I was still making for myself, I decided to build a business around it. Having my own jewelry business allows me to nourish my creativity no matter where I live, accommodate my government-endorsed, transient lifestyle and share my creative aesthetic with the world, like I always intended.

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What has been the biggest struggle that you,ve had to overcome in your journey?
Being a self-taught jewelry designer brought up a lot of yucky inner creative struggles early on, because I threw myself into a world of really talented, trained and skilled designers. At first, I didn’t feel like I belonged there or was worthy enough to even call myself a jewelry designer. I was a fine artist that just decided to do this one day. Being a jewelry designer was never my plan, so I wasn’t trained and I had no idea what I was doing. I typically like to plan for things and prepare for things as much as possible, but there I was with some creativity and an idea to design jewelry. I had to learn to trust myself on a whole new level – my creativity, my googling skills, my decisions.

What’s the best thing about having a personal project and being an entrepreneur?
I’m a full-time jewelry designer, stylist and blogger, and I work for myself.  The best thing about that is the freedom that I have as the decision-maker.  I get to use my ideas, my skills and my creativity however I want to use them. I get to devote my time to whatever I want to devote it to, and I get to rearrange my schedule every day however I need to rearrange it on that particular day. On a deeper level, that freedom also allows me to have control over my career.  As a military wife, I don’t have any control over some major parts of my life – where I live, how long I live there or even when I get to see my husband.  So, working for myself gives me a say in how my life turns out.

Any advice you can give to anyone who has started this journey or who wants to start a personal project.
Trust yourself. You’re much smarter and much more capable than you give yourself credit for.

Who are some Girl Bosses that you look up to and why? (this is a new one!)
Erin Loechner of Design for Mankind. She was one of the first design-minded women I came across that successfully built multiple businesses, is balancing motherhood with entrepreneurship, and portrays it all with a refined sense of style.

Emily Henderson of Style by Emily Henderson. I love her sense of humor and the energy she brings to design and style. She is also an entrepreneur who balances her business with motherhood, and I hope to be half as cool as her doing it all one day.

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And there you have it guys, another inspiring story from a Girl Boss! A story that shows us that we may be scared, we may think we are not as talented as we think we are, but if we try and if we have the will to master our skills, we can be amazing no matter where we live!

Connect with Caitie!
Website: http://leocadiak.com/
Instagram: @caitiesherrick
Facebook: LEOCADIA K.
Pinterest: caitiesherrick

All images belong to Caitie Sherick

 

 

IT’S TIME

It’s time to say I love you to your partner, to your family, to your friends, to your dog…

It’s time to eat that chocolate without thinking of how many calories it has.

It’s time to walk to the person that you see everyday and hug them as if you haven’t seen them in a long time.

It’s time to play your favorite song and dance and sing and let the music give you chills.

It’s time to realize that there are so many things going on in the world, that people are flawed but that there’s so much more greatness out there than there’s badness.

It’s time to call that person instead of texting them.

It’s time to get a pet, because yes they might not talk but furry friends are really the best company.

It’s time to stop looking for “the one”, you are the one, you don’t need someone to complete you.

It’s time to go out with your friends and feel good about the fact that no matter how little you see each other, you still feel close.

It’s time to be yourself because it’s better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.

It’s time to get a check up, yes you may be young and healthy, but you don’t have superpowers, you have to take care of yourself.

It’s time to stop acting like life is a race and you gotta win it. Take your time, you don’t have to keep up to other people’s pace.

It’s time to be alone, to take some time for yourself and get to know you, because you’ve changed but you’re so busy with everything else that you have stopped paying attention to your soul.

It’s time to relax, have a cup of tea and just relax, because the world will not end if you slow down for a while.

It’s time to smile to a stranger, because a smile can brighten a day.

It’s time to be happy for your friends and let them know that you’re happy, that you’re proud of them.

It’s time to be thankful, because when was the last time you looked around and thanked whatever force you believe in for everything that you have and you are?

It’s time to ask  “how are you?” to the person that makes your coffee every morning, because they usually only ask you.

It’s time to give yourself some credit for everything you’ve accomplished.

It’s time to call your parents because they still miss you even if they don’t say it.

It’s time to paint, take pictures, sing, write, dance, run… or whatever makes you feel alive because if not now, when?

It’s time to start falling in love with your flaws and embracing them as beautiful things that make you you.

It’s time to let things flow and stop wanting to control everything, we can’t do that, we just can’t.

It’s time to do the number one thing on your bucket list because if you keep waiting for the right time, let me tell you there’s no right time, the time is now and you should live it while you can.

It’s time to start living, because really that’s why we are here for.